5 Sex Topics to Discuss with Your Partner
Thanks to media, all of us are exposed to a variety of commodities that serve our intimate needs – from condoms, contraceptive pills to sexy lingerie, menswear etc, However, still a substantial chunk of Indians avoid discussing intimate topics even with partners, the simple reason being “a strange shyness or discomfort.”
Sex isn’t a secret that you need to hide. It is an intrinsic biological necessity for every species that inhabits the planet. So how can you get out of your comfort zone and strike a conversation with your partner? Treating your partner as equal is the first step. Letting your partner know that you really feel close and want to confide in him/ her is the second!
Having built this confidence, you can proceed with the following topics to discuss:
- What turns Him/ Her on?
“Sex is a game of the Mind”- the proverb defines the intrigue of sex in the best way. So, to start with, you have to have a better idea of your partner’s comfort and discomfort. What turns her on? What does he like? What is an absolute no-no? People have preferences, so play by the rule and also tweak with permission. Be sensitive and excite each other with sexy talks, expressive texts and sensuous touch.
- Fire it up with Foreplay?
Sex isn’t a mechanical act. The fire is in the imagination. Foreplay, therefore, tops the chart as one of the most essential elements in making sex an exciting and memorable act. What next? This anticipation builds drama and adds more spice. Touching, kissing, expressing with words is an exceptional sexual vocabulary that adds much meaning to such engagements. Did you make her feel wanted? Did he feel loved? Ensure that you discuss your fancies with your partner.
- Which Precaution?
Safe sex is a vital factor to enjoy good bonding. In India almost 80% couples like having sex without protection, according to statistics. This leads to complications like unwanted pregnancy and other health issues. Therefore, it is a wise idea to talk with your partners about the means of protection you both can use. There are several precautions that can help you enjoy good sex without having to worry about consequences. Worry, after all can be a big turn-off!
- Open to Experimentation?
One of the most common bedroom boredom is not being able to explore sex with your partners – complain many. So, talking about sexual fantasies and desires is only but normal. Talk to your partner and discuss openly how you would like to explore intimacy in new ways.
- Ladies First? Or Men?
Female partners need their male counterparts to start the seduction process. Though not true in all cases, men have often complained of lack of initiation by their female partners. Therefore, it is a good thing to discuss this aspect of sex. Seduce your man and offer frequent opportunities to bond over sex. Don’t feel shy to acknowledge your own desires to feel loved and wanted.
With time, we have come of an age where live-in is slowly becoming a social condition acceptable with young couples. Sexual compatibility is an important factor for both genders, so is exploration and enjoyment. Talking about sex and desires and compatibility is as important as talking about savings, making a home and committing to a lifetime of togetherness. To rock your relationship in a positive way, you need to let go of your inhibitions and open up to your partner. There is nothing in the world as comforting as a heart to heart chat. So, let go of the fear and engage.
