What Men REALLY Want?

Dear Women, 

This might be the question you have been chasing. You might have had a few unsuccessful relationships, or one long stable relationship. You must have had experiences or slump where you just couldn’t figure out what men want.

While there is no bible, or a to do list you have which you follow and you have a stable, exciting, and happy relationship but there must be a few things you must pay attention to keep your emotional as well as physical relationship healthy.

So, what do men really want? Let’s dig in one by one. 

1. 1. Respect
      

      You have heard a lot about the highly volatile male ego. But how to satisfy it while keeping your self-respect intact? You need to know what entices them. Some of them are highly possessive about their intellect, others take pride in their muscles. You need to know what your man keeps under his nose. While doing this, you also must make it very clear about the things you hold dear. Men secretly like women who have a thing for mutual respect.

• Emotional Intimacy

“If they aren’t horny, make them a sandwich.” People say men have only two moods, hungry and horny? But is there a third dimension? Is there the e-factor? Is there an idea of sentimental need for all men? Do they fit the Maslow’s need hierarchy? Well yes, by all means. They need an emotional support; they need to vent out their feelings. Don’t be surprised if your man cries in front of you.

1. Opinions
   

   They need an expert advice. They might be a banker, lawyer, or an engineer and you might be a teacher, doctor, or an entrepreneur. A lot of men believe that women are the best advisors. They can be really firm when it comes to decision making.

   Apart from mental and emotional needs, they might have very specific physical needs. And they might be as varied as it gets. While a lot of men want different things in bed, here’s something you need to think about.

1. Sex
   

When it comes to sex, here are a few pointers.

• Do they want you to initiate things?
  

A lot of times, yes. A lot of times, no. Think about their mood, the setting, the kind of day they’ve had. They seem down? Charge them up. They seem excited? Play along. There will be times they won’t be in the mood to have fun. Respect. At the same time, be very tactical while denying them anything. Try not to spoil the mood. 

• How open are they to try out new things?
  

Test the waters, tease them. If they seem enticed, go ahead. Communicate, ask them if they like it. And the same, if you like it, tell it. If you don’t suggest an alternative but keep things going. Sex is more about communication than you’ll ever think. Over a period of time, you’ll realise how experimental they are when it comes to sex.

• Communicate. 

Talk. Before the act, and after it. Be open about your fantasies. They might be initially reluctant, especially if you are new into the relationship, but soon they will enjoy it more than you can imagine. 

All in all, any happy relationship is about knowing each other, which obviously takes time. So, all you got to do is observe them, let your guards down, and be honest.