What women want?
“When my partner passes out after sex it turns me off big time, I feel neglected.” Source not revealed.
Satisfying a woman in bed is not rocket science; all that women ask for is engagement – small talks, touches, cuddles and love. The feeling of being loved is what turns on a woman. The common female psychosis of being treated as commodities of pleasure creates relationship troubles. It dampens their spirit and creates an emotional void. Also, research shows that most females across the world fake orgasms. Why?
Have you ever asked your partner if she feels satisfied after sex? If she reached her high? Is there any scope to better the experience or your performance? If not, then it is a good time to start a conversation.
While most men are open about their sexual preferences and fantasies, there is a majority of women that shy away from engaging in candid sex dialogue. This does not mean that their sexual urge is any less than that of their male counterparts. They are only waiting for you to pay attention and ask
Giving Clues
Many women don’t express it, but being verbal about what you are about to do to her, or about your fantasies turns her on in a big way. Whisper your ideas gently without being insensitive. Touch, tickle and play; humour her and tease her with your words. Slowly build the act and keep a dialogue alive – asking for her permission, sometimes telling her what to do. This way sex becomes more pleasurable because there is a constant exchange of ideas and words.
Locking your gaze
Women enjoy locking gaze. They want you to stay fixated and tell them about your feelings. The way psychologists put it is- “Are you focusing on your partner or only in the act? Are you telling them you want them? Or are you signalling that all you want is sex? There is a major difference.”
Getting Naughty and Unpredictable
Get the bore out of your bedroom. Surprise her, catch her unaware and unprepared. Make her feel that your feelings for her are not restricted by situations, locations or the time of the day. She will give into random acts of intimacy, though she might not say that she wants. Change your game plan. Always starting it with foreplay may bore her, keep her on her feet and don’t let her guess what’s coming next. Play on her anticipation.
Domination Exercised with Sensitivity
She would like you to dominate. Though not always but often. The male prowess to overpower and guide pleases a woman much more. But do give her a chance to dominate as well. Reverse role-plays and see what she is up to. Give her a chance to explore her potential of scaling things up a little.
After Sex
For a woman it is very important that you engage after sex. Holding her, talking about her day, listening to music together are things that will make her feel much more satisfied. A good night kiss, a good laugh are the little things that add much meaning. Be a little more aware to conclude it well at the day’s end. Sex is only a way to express love, while love finds more ways to make it a meaningful relationship.
Next time you approach her, do try and surprise her with a little bit of kink and compassion. Read through the physical and verbal clues she is giving, and get going!
